Compromising - Meeting in the middle is something most couples miss. Without compromising for things your partners likes or wants to do can be a deal breaker and bring issues.

Understanding - everyone thinks about things differently and with compromising and communication understanding comes into play. You may not agree but understanding where that person is coming from and why that person feels that way is important.

Communication - without it nothing will last. Which makes it impossible to move forward. If there is a problem talk about it. Don't create a problem and def don't make the problem any worse by assuming. Pay attention and if it's a real matter to talk about then approach it correctly.

Acceptance - you can't be with someone with out accepting them for who they are and the baggage they carry. Acceptance also means accepting mistakes without making that someone who made the mistake suffer for making them.  If you accept their mistake punishing them or trying to regulate them only means you really do not accept them.

Motivate - you can't be with someone that does not motivate you. Nothing worse then to have a person you have too baby, a person too busy talking and dreaming but never ever makes a move or a person with no motivation what so ever. Being overly motivated can cause as much issues, because this person causes you to loose money. 1, 2, 3........after a few tries changing is good but wasting money is and will cause major issues.

Putting the sizzle back into your relationship, marriage and sex life requires practicing new things! A lot of folks who have kids feel like finding chemistry is very difficult.  My thought is if you have time to cheat, that means you have time to make your marriage or relationship work.  Small things like playing games, taking walks, working out, cooking together, cleaning together or plan old chilling after the kiddies are a sleep are a few additional ways to make things happen. Couples should learn practical insights on how to add spice to their sex life! Foreplay, orgasms, and a list of sexgestions are only the beginning... Toys and exotic get always are another. 

I have learned a lot in my marriage that not only prepped me for my next, it prepped me as a women.  Yes I said next, because I am not bitter nor do I down play marriage.  However though dating now is 100 times scarier and marriage seems to be the last thing on my list.  I will do it again.  Accepting the reality of it being over was the HARDEST part.  I chose my happiness over comfort and fear.  Don't get me wrong some have problems and do EVERYTHING in their power to fix it.  Which being the one to filed for divorce I feel deep in my heart I did, but once its broken its broken.   Some try to fix it, because that's where they are most comfortable or that's all they know.  Others try because of the famous line "For the Kids!"  Nothing changes if you DO NOT have the 5 top tips above, which I learned. 

My little thoughts for you!