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Sunday, August 24, 2014 in , , , , ,

Having patience for a man trying is different from having patience fora man making excuses.





A man should never have to think twice about what he wants to do for you.  If he wants too he will. If your the one he will go out his way, not make excuses.  It can take a while, but he will do and change things to build up that trust to show you, your the one he wants.  This is not to say you should accept certain behavior.  However when you point it out he would do his best to try to change it genuinely without losing himself.

Having patience for a man trying is different from having patience for a man making excuses. Those excuses wear out at some point and then what happens? She starts to feel unhappy, unwanted and unloved.  First she expresses (which they call nagging).  Then one or the other gets tired. Ladies a man who wants and needs you will not put you through something that is heartbreaking. If it's the same issue that arises then sweetheart you are not the one he wants to change for.  Know the difference  between excuses and a man wanting to change to be with you.  Love don't make excuses, love make changes.  

So men pay attention.....the woman who bend over backwards for you...the woman that ask for nothing deserves more than just a little something.  Get creative! Simple moments can be the best special moment to her. Stop repeating what you can do and do it.  Becoming a skipping record becomes a woman's pet peeve. Pay attention to what she likes...can't figure it out, ask questions or talk to others close to her.  Have you been doing and it's not enough? Communicate it by talking not demanding. Still can't make her smile??? Then maybe she's just not happy with you, herself or she just does not know what she wants. 

What you don't do is cheat!! Falling back may or may not help, but no one....not even a man should feel unappreciated. However still be that man and make your woman feel like that woman. That's 99% of what she needs!!! Just my thought. 

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Position of the Week: Saucy Spoon



As I lay me down to sleep....he rolls over on his side and begins to go deep! Say hello to the position of the week "Saucy Spoon."  Now I like this position and I don't like it! Let me start off with why I don't. If I really want it, to me this position just does not work for the horny, I want it now feeling.  Have you ever laid like the lady in the picture and your man tried to stick it in; but in reality you wanted him to just get on top hold your legs over your head and go to work. Saucy Spoon is not that position. This is why I don't care for it when I want a good round.  To avoid it ladies this is why Kegel's are important. You can use them muscles to push the penis out. After a few tries he will get frustrated and switch positions automatically. If he don't get it, then just play dead. 

Now if you just want to go easy, slow and feel some good pressure, while relaxing Saucy Spoon is a great position. Especially if y'all just had a great round a few hours before and you just want to feel each other some more.  Don't get me wrong this position can lead to another round, but it starts off easy.  Once you lay there, arch your back slightly like in the picture and stay that way.....a man loves it. It's extra tight, because your legs are locked together, but the arch is what does the trick. You both feel everything as he strokes deep. 

You have to be arched properly or it will keep slipping out.  Super soaker's have this issue regardless.  However, with the right arch and if he is laying right under that arch, this position will make you fall in love.  I say fall in love, because of the intimacy and passion Saucy Spoon can create.  The BEST part about this position is when things do get heated and you end up in the doggy style position! UMMMMM AMAZING.  There is nothing better than unexpected good sex.

10 Ways to Improve Your Marriage While You're Still Single By Paul Carrick Brunson Essense.com

Stop Falling In Love With Potential 
Having a healthy relationship with your partner means loving them for who stands before you today, not the hope of who they will become tomorrow. Falling in love with potential is a mistake. So often I see good-willed people focus much of their energy on attempting to “rescue” or “upgrade” their partner. They give unreciprocated time, love, money, energy, and advice. I’m sure you know someone doing this right now. If so, do them a favor and have a good Come-To-Jesus talk with them. The truth is they’re not in a relationship, they’re working on a science project. They haven’t fallen in love with the man/woman, they have actually fallen in love with the “ideal” of the man/woman. This is dangerous, simply because often times the “ideal” is never realized.  Having a healthy relationship with your partner means loving them for who stands before you today, not the hope of who they will be tomorrow. 

Love Yourself More I’m not talking about looking in the mirror and saying, “I look good.” Loving yourself is about respecting what you put in your mind, your body and your spirit. The more you love yourself, the more emotionally healthy people you will attract. Get Some Identity Capital I learned this from an amazing TED Talk by clinical psychologist Meg Jay. She articulates "identity capital" as something that adds value to who you are. It could be an internship, getting your start-up launched, going for that trek around the world — any initiative that builds character will later be desired. 

Work On Your Vulnerability The bottom line is, you can’t love without first being vulnerable. Putting yourself in positions of vulnerability in other areas of your life will help exercise this “muscle Be Intentional Approach your love life as intentionally as you do your work. Choose who and what you want in a relationship rather than just making it work with whoever chooses you Understand Your Personality The top reason blamed for divorce is money, but that’s incorrect, it’s actually the inability to problem-solve. 

Working through issues is solely based on communication skills. Effective communication stems from our personality. In my book, I explain in detail how to determine personality compatibility. 

Know Your Values Creating your “values list’ is the most important exercise you can do when thinking about compatibility in a partner. Your values are your guiding principles, akin to your personal rulebook. If you try to live with someone who has a different set of rules, it’s not going to work. Spend time fully understanding what you value most (and why.) 

Expand Your Social Circle Adding what is called “weak ties” (friends of friends of friends) to your social circle is documented as the most effective way to realize new life opportunities, including jobs and a significant other. Focus on expanding your circle now. Here are proven ways to meet someone new. 

Strengthen Your Belief System I preach to my clients constantly that our belief is our reality. If you know your belief system (about marriage) needs support, I suggest beginning with monitoring what content you intake (via TV, blogs, etc.) and whom you surround yourself with. 

Get a Mentor I can’t say enough about the growth that comes from mentorship, whether it’s for romance, business or just life in general. If you’ve looked for a mentor with no success, you’re more than welcome to join my mentoring group, please join me here. 

By Paul Carrick Brunson Essense.com 

Can't say much after reading this!!!  ALL of it is 100% fact