Intimacy is important in every relationship. Once that is lost it is hell to gain it back. There are so many things that can cause it to go out the window. Lies, cheating, lack of communication and feeling unappreciated are a few that many especially women have experienced. With faith in relationship and time it can come back. However without assistance of to seek issues or holing in for too lonf can cause it to be too late. Plan and simple!! Some people are determained to make it work to the point they get crazy with it. But thats the time you must stop and let that person go. With love and faith, what is meant to be will be and intimancy will flourish again.
The Five C’s of Sexual Intimacy in Relationships/Marriage:
Counselor:
A lot of people have pride in going to someone to seek help with marriage. What these people do not understand, is that this is a way to have someone that knows nothing about either of you point of each of your faults. They are there to help guide you with challenges to even gain back love. They are the eye opener for MOST relationships. Maybe it will work, maybe it won't, but at least you know you have taken that last route to make that relationship/marriage work. The ones that never want to go always say is "It's not me it's you!" So if it is the one you love and you see they need help, wouldn’t you want to help them? Fix the problem early do not let it go to the point of failure, because that famous quote, will haunt you forever. So go even if you feel that way! Show them that you want it to work.
Communication:
Frustration accumulates when a husband and/ or wife are not able to communicate about problems, desires, fears, or a host of other regularly unspoken issues that impact their sexual experience. Communication allows difficult topics to be openly discussed. What if the wife has no interest in sex? On the other hand, is there freedom to share sexual fantasies with your spouse? Can both partners openly share what they think about their sex life, as well as every other part of their lives?
Caring:
Caring for your partner means providing them with the sexual experience that pleases them, on their terms, in their way, in their time frame. A husband caring for his wife might mean he focuses on slow and gentle caresses, speaking of her beauty and his love for her, or perhaps practicing giving a full body massage!
Commitment:
Commitment to sexual intimacy in marriage involves doing what is necessary to achieve it, and eliminating whatever is necessary that impedes it. Commitment also translates into time: you must prioritize your time for sex since busyness is one factor that always gets in the way.
Common Values:
Intimacy will not be produced when values held by husband and wife is in conflict. You both must deal with the issues of beliefs, core values, mutual perspective, and shared goals. They can change; this is why it’s important to have that communication.
