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Wednesday, January 7, 2015 in , , , , , , ,

Dear Butterfly - Break Free


Break free from the pain that has caused you to not trust, love or feel things that are real. Break free from the egos, the negative feelings, the mental break down. Break free from the lies, being put second, being loyal to the UN-loyal. Break free from the burden you carry from your past. Break free from the loss of the love you once called your one and true love. Break free from anything that does not serve you or grow you into a beautiful free minded spirit. Break free and spread your wings, not your legs because that is never the answer. Break free from sexual desires that have no purpose, meaning or growth. Break free from the shell that was built around society. Break free thinking that life lessons or let downs or pain or hurt or scares are a letdown. Break free because all of it is lessons for positive growth. Break free and praise god for the wings he has created for you to fly, be free and move on to your next journey. Break free this shell it's NOT for you!

Wednesday, June 25, 2014 in , , , , ,

A Letter To My Father......A Must see site from Via @missjia

http://alettertomyfather.net/
Came across this site called A Letter To My Father from the one and only MissJia.    Like me so many women struggle with relationships seeking something in a man that they never got from their father or seen from their own father.  In my case I struggle with doing all I can so that man can stay even if he was no good or just cut them off with no reason or explanation because of a broken promise.  I had no idea that this was happening until I went through this soul searching episode.  I won't totally blame myself for my marriage, because trust I did try; However if I was not so desperate for a man's love and attention or just wanting to have a family of my own.  I would have NEVER stayed in something I knew was not real.  After digging and blaming and digging some more, I come to see that I followed a trend of chasing my father with not only my husband, but with men I "Loved" period. 

My dad was a man dedicated to his music and though he loved me, his love was not the kind of love you expect from a father.  When he was there, he was there and did EVERYTHING for me.  I was his baby girl.  I got the gifts, toys and more toys when he was missing.  At that time it was “to me” good, because as a little girl who didn't want all the barbies, dolls and doll houses?  As I got older I started to ask why and when till I started to sound like a broken record.  Why can't I come this weekend or why can't you see me this weekend.  It was too the point I didn't care for the gifts, I just wanted to see my "Daddy!"  I called, chased and basically drained my mother just to see my daddy.  All his promises where either broken or came true by my brother who I lost in 1996.  When boys got involved that urge little by little left from my dad, to the ones I dated.  To make it worse I had this weight on my chest from loss of the other man I felt loved me more than my father himself, so scared was an under estimate. Could I express this then to my mom?  No because she was busy taking care of 3 kids.  So as a teen I had to figure out  a lot about boys via friends and my own personal experiences.  


I can go on and on, but since I FINALLY found peace by expressing this to both my mom and dad.  I found peace with my past as a child and my past 3 heart breaks.   Not to mention the men I treated like shit because I was so angry, but used the "Ms. Independent" theory as a cover up.   To me  any women who have issues and holding on to some demons should find a way to talk about it.  Luckily I become an overly outspoken person, however not all women have that courage or urge to tell anyone or their parents, especially their father.  I still struggle I won't lie, but I sure do pray and try daily.  So to me A Letter to My Father is a great start.  This is not only for bad experiences but good.  Though I had issues with my dad we are very close, once again I was his baby girl till this day.  He being a father was my issue, because he ALWAYS treated me like I was a friend.  I never got it till I became a woman I was lucky to rebuild our friendship and got to see and understand why he was who "HE" was.  I say was, because he did change and he changed A LOT!!!  Feels weird but I am happy to see that people can change for the good. A lot of women do have great relationships with their dads; however a lot struggle from some issue caused by their dad.

This post isn’t about Love or Sex, but because a lot of women who seek fatherly love or resent men because of a missing father....I felt like sharing this site with you.